It has been a while since I’ve had an opportunity to share my thoughts with you. I’ve been put on a long trail where I’ve met many a variety of folks looking for answers and others looking for release from torment and other pains.
The one experience which I’ve found most challenging is the one dealing with overly emotional individuals. Let me set the expectation of this article up front. It is not my intent to belittle those whom are much more emotional than others. My intention is only to share my observations regarding such modality.
All of us deal with challenges completely differently. Life can be moving smoothly, and if encountered by a stumbling block some would behave as if the world is falling all around them and that nothing has improved. Others just ask; “What is the lesson this stumbling block intends for me to learn?”.
How you chose to process challenges in your life dictates how successfully you will be able to continue to grow.
If you expect a negative outcome, you will get a negative outcome. Therefore; you can choose the outcome of any challenge you face in life.
Having said this much, I’ve observed that overly emotional individuals tend to focus on one issue they can hold on to because it helps them feel victimized. There is incredible power in this. Other times I’ve observed that these individuals have an internal timeline against which everything is measured against. Others want the results yesterday.
In an ese ifa of the Odu Eji Ogbe ifa says:
Let us not engage the world hurriedly.
Let us not grasp at the rope of wealth impatiently.
That which should be treated with mature judgement,
Let us not deal with in a state of uncontrolled passion…
I just love that last line. A person who lacks passion cannot be emotional. If you don’t care about something you will lack passion about it. Passion gives you drive. Sometimes a dogged drive and at worst a passion without reason.
I’ve also learned that most people who are overly emotional about something at times are experiencing anger. This anger may arise because they are being pushed to do something their ego does not want to do, or they just refuse to confront a reality which, if confronted will help them grow.
In an ese Ifa of the Odu Ogbe Gunda ifa tells us:
An uncontrolled temper does not create anything for anyone.
Patience is the father of character.
A person who is patient will become the master of all things…
Next time you are dealing with an overly emotional person, don’t dismiss their behavior. There is a deeper more significant experience triggering their behavior. The emotional outburst is only the symptom.
I would like to hear from you about how you have dealt with an overly emotional person. I know we all have and I think others would like to hear about your experience. If you have been able to turn the tide (pun intended), how did you do it?